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We use the term 'inner beauty' because we know that beauty is not only 'skin deep'. This Housewives personals in Windsor CA aims to throw some more light on the notion of inner beauty. Although this applies to both men and women we focus here on women's beauty.
Beauty, Goodness and Attraction It is common to contrast the outer beauty of good looks with the inner beauty of goodness. This points to two different kinds of attraction. We are attracted aesthetically to visual beauty, and we are attracted spiritually to goodness. We could Beautiful adult wants sex tonight Philadelphia Pennsylvania the realm of attraction as being 'between' beauty and goodness.
Beauty and goodness have this in common - they are both attractive. So instead of having two elements, outer beauty and inner beauty, we have. In this way we can identify attraction as the common element between. This is ificant because it helps us identify more of what is going on.
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She might speak and relate to others somewhat awkwardly, be preoccupied so as not to seem as alert to others' sensibilities, and have an unintentionally dour manner.
None Housewives want real sex Mc Veigh Kentucky this tells you whether she is a good person or not, but neither does the more refined manner of the other woman. When it comes to the bottom line, to the quality of a person's moral character, appearances are not relevant.
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They have to keep reminding themselves that she is a good person to help them deal with her manner. While recognising her goodness they wonder why she couldn't work a bit harder on being more pleasant and personable. We expect a certain amount of give and take in our manner of relating. A Lesson Housewives want hot sex Loganville Wisconsin 53943 Seduction Once we clarify the nature of attraction we discover that we could become more attractive.
Although the most important constituent of attraction is goodness, here we are assuming good intentions so as to focus on the combination of outer beauty and the 'inner beauty' of attraction.
However, before we leave the question of moral character aside it is worth using it to clarify something about attraction. Bad intentions can use the emotional forms of attraction for the purpose of seduction. Seduction works by simulating goodness. A lady with inner beauty seducer mimics goodness by developing refinement in the means of expressing those things that the other sex finds attractive.
If 'flattery is the homage that vice pays to virtue' then 'emotional refinement is the homage that seduction pays to goodness'.
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Bad intentions can be disguised by outer refinement. What can we learn from this? We want to find that beauty is synonymous with goodness.
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And the mediation between the physical and the spiritual is the symbolic. Beauty is the general symbol of goodness, and by accentuating the s of beauty we 'co-opt' some of the force of attraction inherent in goodness. All kinds of seduction work like. They take something good, that should be unproblematic, and use our spontaneous attraction to the beautiful to deceive us.
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They were made to reinforce each other, not oppose each. And when goodness is reinforced with beauty it becomes all the more powerful. Although we always need to retain a certain mindfulness of the propensity for beauty and goodness to fall Woman wants sex Deep Run of balance, this is not sufficient reason to avoid any accentuation of beauty.
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We could inadvertently make the mistake of elevating the beauty of personality over the beauty of outer appearance. We can lose sight of the distinction between the attraction of goodness and the attraction of interior development, equating it too simply with 'inner beauty'. You see this at times when people react to the favoured attention given to those with good looks.
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Do you have to be clever to be good? In a beauty ant people might become critical of one who looks very beautiful but who is awkward in manner, preferring the one who has the more refined personality.
But again, is a nice personality a of goodness?
What we call 'personality' is partly a gift but also an achievement, and can be developed by good and bad alike. If there is danger, it probably lies more in the cultivation of the emotional forms of attraction than the outward forms. This is because it is easier for people Hot and ready btown w recognise that outer appearances are not the same thing as goodness than it is to recognise that a pleasing manner might also be deceptive.
This is reinforced by the fact that outer beauty fades fairly quickly with time, but 'emotional beauty' can become stronger over time. However, just as most women who are trying to enhance their outer beauty are motivated by good intentions, so too are those who are trying to enhance the attractiveness of their personalities. This makes a lot of sense, especially when we keep in mind what was just said about the transience of outer beauty and the timelessness of emotional beauty.
Best not to have only one string to your bow. The Accentuation of Attraction Now that we have cleared the decks about the dangers of beauty, we can turn our attention to what is involved in the quest for accentuated attraction. By identifying three different kinds of beauty, we can see three different ways of enhancing attractiveness. Notwithstanding the cautions given above, it is a good rule of thumb to put them in this order of priority: 1.
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What about how you sit down and stand up and move around a room? Are your movements graceful and smooth or careless and clunky?
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From this we can also see why we tend to put our emphasis on these three aspects of beauty in reverse order. It's a lot easier to get a new dress or hairdo than to develop a more pleasing manner. And it is a lot easier to appear to be good than to actually be so.